Tonight, I was surfing the web and ended up on the website for the Union for Reform Judaism (http://www.urj.org/), doing some "homework" for an upcoming professional development trip I am taking (more on that in future posts).
As I do sometimes, I checked out the Reform Judaism blog (http://www.blogs.rj.org/) and stumbled across a lovely posting by a young man ... the title was "I'm Glad My Mother Made Me Attend Hebrew School" (see http://blogs.rj.org/reform/2011/06/by-jordan-luriespeech-original.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+rjblog+%28RJ+Blog%29). The young man explains that, while his mother would ask him whether he wanted to attend, he knew that his answer didn't really matter.
These days, with our kids having so many competing interests, we have to be especially careful to have their calendars (as well as ours) reflect our values ... yes, playing soccer is a fabulous team sport, but how does it reflect our values? (I don't mean to pick on soccer, but it seems to be one of the most-cited reasons why kids can't come to B'nai Mitzvah preparation appointments ... but, it could be any sport or extra-curricular activity.)
At my current congregation, we host a "Shabbaton" for kids (and parents) entering the B'nai Mitzvah process about twice a year, during which I get a few minutes to go over some of the goals and expectations of the program. Recently, I have begun to tell families that they should consider lightening their child's extracurricular activities in the year preceding their child's ceremony date. I also tell them that their child will have many extra appointments the last 4-6 weeks before their child's ceremony and they should consider having their child not participate in ANY extracurricular activities during this time. Can you imagine how well this goes over? ;-)
If you get a moment, take a look at the link above ... and you'll see why I am glad this young man appreciates his parents decisions on his behalf.
If you read it, you will see that he isn't talking about B/M prep, but rather his parents' decision that he would attend Hebrew school through HS graduation. Think about it, I can't imagine any parent talking to their kid about going to high school saying, "Don't worry, if you don't want to go to 8th grade (or 9th or 10th or 11th), you don't have to go."
I believe most Jewish parents would say that receiving a Jewish education is important, but I think too many give their kids the choice about when their child's Jewish education ends (or let soccer practice or band rehearsals or some other activity make the choice for them). To me, religious education is a necessary supplement to "regular school" for children to grow up with a well-rounded education ... I just wish more parents agreed ... and that their calendars reflected that decision. : )
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